What are the Six Super Skills for Executive Functioning?

As an Executive Functioning Coach for Parents, I get it. Executive functioning can feel like a lot. But when we break it down into six key super skills, it becomes way more approachable. These super skills are: finding gifts, setting goals, chunking, boosting motivation, emotional intelligence, and attention management. By focusing on these, you can tackle executive functioning with ease and clarity.

Finding Gifts 

Think about your week. What went well? Maybe you got the kids out the door on time, made the grocery list before heading to the store, or managed to sneak in a few quiet minutes with a cup of coffee. Wins don’t have to be big—small victories count too. Recognizing these moments helps you see the good in your day, build confidence, and remind yourself that you’re doing an amazing job, not only as a parent but also as a person.

Set Goals 

Setting goals can really boost your motivation and give you a clear purpose. The key? Make them SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound). Start simple: like folding that mountain of laundry by Sunday or committing to a walk twice a week instead of overhauling your entire self-care routine. Keep it small, keep it steady, and build from there.

Chunking

Feeling overwhelmed? Break it down. It’s called chunking. This is where you take a big task and split it into smaller, bite-sized pieces. Instead of stressing over planning a whole family vacation, break it down into smaller pieces. Start with researching destinations one day, then work on booking flights another, and so on. Every small win adds up, giving you the momentum to keep going. Progress is progress, no matter how small. With chunking, even the toughest tasks feel manageable.

Boosting Motivation

Getting stuff done doesn’t have to feel like a chore. Add a little fun, and suddenly, it’s not so bad. Cleaning the bathroom? Throw on your favorite podcast or playlist. Taking your sick kid to the doctor? Pack some snacks and make it a mini adventure. When you pair something, you enjoy with the things you dread, they stop feeling like obligations and turn into moments that are a little easier, and maybe even enjoyable.

Emotional Intelligence 

Life gets overwhelming, and managing big emotions takes practice. The trick? Self-soothing. In the same way you teach your kids to handle their feelings, it’s important to show yourself that same patience. When frustration rises, try taking a deep breath or stepping away for a moment. If bedtime feels like a constant struggle, pause, take a second, and focus on staying calm. Speak slowly, think about solutions, and avoid snapping in the heat of the moment. Even simple things like counting to ten or picturing a calm place can make a difference. It’s not about getting it perfect, it’s about making progress and being kind to yourself along the way.

Attention Management

Being a parent can feel like a nonstop to-do list, but don’t forget, you matter too. Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to mean big life changes. It’s about small moments that bring balance and joy. Like enjoying your morning coffee in peace (yes, even if it means waking up earlier). Or sneaking in a quick walk at the park while the kids play. Maybe it’s rediscovering a hobby you loved before parenthood, like painting or reading. 

These little things aren’t selfish, they’re necessary. Taking time for yourself shows your kids that self-care matters. It’s not easy, especially if you’re used to putting everyone else first, but here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. But also, you're worth it. You deserve to feel calm, happy, and fulfilled in your own life. So, start small. Find ways to add little moments of joy to your busy days. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about showing up for yourself in ways that make life feel just a bit lighter.

Other Therapy and Coaching Services Offered at Finding Focus Therapy

At Finding Focus Therapy, I specialize in executive skills coaching for young adults and parents who want to build confidence, improve organization, and navigate life’s challenges with more ease. Whether you're struggling with time management, decision-making, or feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities, I’m here to help you develop the skills you need to thrive. While executive functioning is a key piece of the puzzle, my goal is to support you in creating lasting change in all aspects of your life. Coaching provides a structured, practical approach to overcoming obstacles, so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

Curious about working with us? Follow these three simple steps to get started:

1. Contact us to schedule a free consultation for executive functioning support for parents

2. Begin meeting with an executive functioning coach 

3. Start on the path toward better stress management and more balance